Diamond Minds
Barry Farber reveals the keys to developing core confidence, the kind that cannot be shattered by obstacles along your path to success.
Karls 1209 Su Diamond Minds By Barry Farber f you want to accomplish great things, break into a new business, get the attention of key people, and take yourself to greater levels of success, you'll need unshakable confidence. This kind of confidence cannot be faked. So how do you create core confidence, no matter what obstacles you encounter? These two strategies will make a difference: I The ConfidenCe factor ing complacent when success comes along. As soon as we stop and coast for too long, our skills decay, and atrophy sets in. People say that "success breeds success." The reason? Success is the culmination of all the hard work that went before… and we've reached a high point. That inspires us and gives us the energy to keep building, keep working… and keep succeeding. question. You say what Barry Farber you mean—and mean what you say. Where does hesitation come from? Why are we sometimes unsure? Because we don't prepare enough, read enough, study enough, and work enough. Our strength comes more from knowing that we have put in the work and prepared for success than from what we learn from the actual preparation. Our hard work allows us to believe that we have earned the right to "core confidence." And when I say "core confidence," I am referring to the belief system and strength that lay deep within each of us. That core confidence will be tested as difficult situations arise. But it will prevail. Why? The English philosopher and economist John Stuart Mill once wrote, "One person with a belief is equal to a force of 99 who have only interest. One of the differences between people with interests and people with beliefs is that the people with deep-seated beliefs set goals and act on them." Remember that the foundation of your character is built on preparation and action, coupled with the belief and passion for what you do. These are the building blocks of unshakable confidence. s 1. Create confidence by continuous, thoughtful action. You need to be well prepared to meet the challenges that will inevitably come our way when we begin any new project. And each action you take will contribute to your likely success—or failure. So it's worth asking yourself some questions as you go along. How focused is your follow-up? Do you stop several times during the day and ask yourself, "What is the most productive use of my time right now?" Do you put your hearts and minds into everything you do? Do you take care of the details or fritter away your time and energy on senseless activities? Think about it. Confidence is built by planting seeds for future opportunities and not becom- 2. Make sure that your belief in who you are and the value of what you do is solid to the core. Don't second-guess who you are and what you believe in. The goal is to improve who you are—not to try to be like someone else. Are you comfortable with yourself? Think about whether you are operating from your core belief system. Are you following your true instincts, taking the actions your gut tells you are correct? When you know who you are and what you believe in, you are in a powerful position. Most people don't realize how powerful that makes them. For one thing, it means you'll never have to stop in the middle of an important presentation, wondering what to say next or how to address a F M D Barry Farber consults with businesses to help them break through sales clutter and land more deals. He specializes in developing simple yet creative strategies that get results. He is the best-selling author of 11 books, a black-belt weapons expert, and a regular on QVC marketing innovative products. His latest release is a 6-CD program, Diamond in the Rough (Nightingale Conant Corporation). Contact him at 973-535-9400 or barry@barryfarber.com. Consignment with Refinement Fine Consignment of Unique Furniture & Home Accessories 1330 Springfield Avenue New Providence Visit us in person or on the web at… Open Tues-Sat 10-5, Thur 12-8 54 Vicinity MAGAZinE Winter 2009 908.464.8800 www.homeagaindesignnj.com M
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